“Male and female created He them.” ~ Genesis 1:27
When God made Adam and Eve for each other, He gave them a very specific role to fill for each other that couldn’t be found anywhere else. In spite of the many animals that populated the Garden of Eden, none of them could satisfy the need for a helper in Adam’s life. Sure, they probably made pleasant company, but none of them could actually talk and share thoughts and feelings with him. Being the sole creation made in God’s image was turning out to be a bit lonely for Adam. Since God’s creation was a perfect world that He Himself called “very good,” He immediately decided that Adam needed someone more like him to provide him with companionship. This someone would be much more like him than any of the animals, but also very different in many ways. That’s when God made the first woman out of Adam’s rib while he was in a deep sleep.
When God brought her before Adam for the first time, Adam was overjoyed, and called her “woman,” because she was literally taken out of man. She was bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh! What an incredible miracle it must have been for Adam to behold her for the first time! Standing before him was an identical replica of himself, but at the same time different on the inside and the outside. God gave Adam a specially created woman as a loving gift, who served a specific purpose of helping him and loving him.
Sadly, our modern world has completely forgotten what the meaning of true love is; and as a result of excessive selfishness, has significantly reduced the roles of both men and women. In this post, I wish to give a brief, gentle reminder to everyone of just how important men and women are to each other, and why each gender is valuable and special in its own way.
Since God created Adam first, we’ll start with the men.
God gave men the blessing of physical strength. They are meant to be protectors and defenders, able to provide for their families and fight for their country. However, although physical strength is one well known gift men might have, they are worth so much more than that alone! In the role of a committed relationship, men are capable of offering many treasures to women, and I don’t mean just material ones!
When a man is right with God in his heart, he will treat his woman like the special lady she is, by doing his best to give her his undivided attention, respecting her feelings, and trusting her with the cares of his heart. Behaving this way will make a special woman feel like a queen, and she’ll be more than happy to see her godly man as a king.
More than anything though, a godly man will be his woman’s best friend, and give her comfort and support whenever it is needed. One delightful trait that most men have is a hilarious sense of humor, which is quite helpful when they use it to try to cheer up the special women in their lives. A funny sense of humor is welcomed and appreciated when it is used in the appropriate situations and contexts. Making a woman laugh is a special ability that many men have, and it is worthy of recognition.
Most important of all these treasures is when a godly man proves he has an honorable character. A man who does this will show himself to be faithful, dependable, honest, sincere, compassionate, selfless, loving, and gentle. When a man possesses these virtues, he becomes a priceless treasure to the woman who loves him. The best way for men to have an honorable character is when they choose to honor God first in their lives. If a man loves God with all his heart, soul, and mind as he should, then he’ll have no trouble treating his woman the way she deserves.
Now let’s focus on the women, God’s equal creation to man.
God gave women the blessing of emotional strength. They are meant to be nurturers and lovers, able to provide men with families and refuge from the stress of the world. They were also created as physically pleasing to men, both visually and sensually. While many women are praised and celebrated for their physical beauty, they are worth far more on the inside! In the role of a committed relationship, women are capable of offering many comforts to men, and I don’t mean just physical ones!
When a woman is right with God in her heart, she will treat her man like the special gentleman he is, by doing her best to give him her unconditional love, respecting who he is, and trusting him enough to let him help her when necessary. Behaving this way will make a special man feel like a king, and he’ll be more than happy to see his godly woman as a queen.
More than anything though, a godly woman will be her man’s confidante, and give him advice and wisdom whenever it is needed. One special quality that many women have is the gift of understanding, which is quite beneficial when their man has had a bad day or is feeling discouraged. A woman with an understanding heart is welcomed and appreciated by her man when he needs reassurance and empathy. Making a man feel understood is a special talent than many women have, and it is worthy of praise.
Most important of all these comforts is when a godly woman proves she has an honorable character. A woman who does this will show herself to be faithful, dependable, honest, sincere, compassionate, selfless, loving, and gentle. When a woman possesses these virtues, she becomes a priceless treasure to the man who loves her. The best way for women to have an honorable character is when they choose to honor God first in their lives. If a woman loves God with all her heart, soul, and mind as she should, then she’ll have no trouble treating her man the way he deserves.
Men and women are very different, yet so similar at the same time.
You probably noticed that the final paragraph about each gender was basically the same, with the respective pronouns reversed. That’s because the most important aspect of a man or woman is the condition of his or her heart before God. Without knowing God as one’s personal Savior and Creator, it is impossible to effectively exhibit the positive traits listed above in a relationship. Also, it is important to remember that men and women both need to feel loved, but are designed to give and receive it in different ways. Men need to feel wanted and respected, while women need to feel cherished and appreciated. Although these needs are almost identical, they are distinctly separate because of how God designed each gender. While every person is already complete in God, a relationship with another person is meant to be another enhancement to our lives, should God choose to bless us with one in His will. God designed man and woman to complement each other, not complete each other. However, the key balancing factor is keeping God central to the relationship. When both hearts are united by God’s love, and a primary love for Him, then it is very unlikely that their bond will end.
How are earthly relationships a reflection of God’s relationship with us?
The most important ingredient in cultivating and maintaining true love is selflessness. It was God Who defined true love when He sent His Son Jesus to our world on earth, leaving behind the glorious splendor of Heaven, just so He could die in our place. Once a person receives spiritual salvation, they must learn to depend on God and fellowship with Him every day. God presented His eternal, unconditional love to us, all so we could develop an intimate relationship with Him. Earthly relationships are built on trust and communication, just like our relationship with God is. True love is not only shown by someone else being selfless, but also by reciprocation. Because God gave His Son’s life for us, the least we can do in return is give our lives to Him. It is only natural to return our hearts to the Creator Who made them! So the same applies to earthly relationships – when love is shown to you by someone you care about, you’ll want to show it right back! Just as the man usually initiates a relationship, God was first to show His love toward us. We have a choice of accepting or denying His love, just as we do with people on earth.
Here are God’s Words confirming how He made men and women for each other:
1 Corinthians 11:9 ~ “Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.“
Genesis 1:27 ~ “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.”
Genesis 2:18 ~ “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”
Genesis 2:23 ~ “And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”
Proverbs 31:10-11 ~ “Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.“
Ephesians 5:22-25 ~ “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;“
Colossians 3:18 ~ “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.“
1 Peter 3:7 ~ “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.“
It’s high time we start appreciating each other as God meant for us!
My final message on this topic is meant to be an encouragement, not a reprimand; so please don’t misinterpret what I’m about to say. I realize that there are many godly men and women out there who are currently treating their significant others the way they should, and that’s wonderful. My purpose in writing this is simply a reminder of these things to ensure that we don’t forget them in the midst of our confusing, modern world.
So men, remember that your wife is your soulmate, and she is there for you to love and appreciate as your helper from God! Don’t take her emotional attachment to you for granted; she is meant to fulfill your need to be needed!
Women, don’t forget that your husband is your hero, and he is there for you to admire and honor as your protector from God! Don’t take his willingness to help you for granted; he is meant to fulfill your need to be supported!
For those of you who aren’t married yet, whether you’re currently single or in a relationship, I encourage you to be on the lookout for all the traits I listed above before you invest your valuable time and emotions in another person. Men and women are supposed to be God’s gifts to each other, and many problems arise when people develop a one-sided mindset! God wants us to love, honor, and respect each other just as we’re supposed to do for Him. When we treat men and women with the love, honor, and respect they deserve, then relationships truly can be a match made in Heaven.
– Gloria D. Hopkins